it is well.

“Advertising is based on one thing: happiness.  And you know what happiness is?  Happiness is the smell of a new car.  It’s freedom from fear.  It’s a billboard on the side of the road that screams reassurance that whatever you are doing is okay.  You are okay. ”  ~ Don Draper, Mad Men

There are few television shows that Ben and I both enjoy.  The latest we have discovered is AMC’s Mad Men.  It’s a simply fantastic drama that depicts the lives of advertising executives in Manhattan during the 1960s.  An episode we watched last week spurred a conversation – about the difference between happiness and contentment.  When you’re optimist married to a cynic, or as he would claim “realist”, this conversation is bound to be a good time.

Ben has always told me that happiness is fleeting.  It is temporary, a place in time, not a state of being.  It is not something to be pursued because it can not be sustained.  If I ever ask him if he is happy, I get a remark along these lines.  Always.  For a long time, I disagreed with his view of happiness.  But I’ve grown to learn (or he’s convinced/brainwashed me) that happiness is indeed transient.

I haven’t always been happy here in Florida.  Much of that was because of my own attitudes and struggle as I adjusted to life here.  I continue to miss dear friends and family, my old town, and working for a cause I believe in.  But I’ve come to accept – dare I say enjoy – my circumstances.  I’ve entered into a state of contentment.  The two may occur simultaneously, but I believe contentment is a steadfast way of being, while happiness is an easily-altered mood or behavior.  Life in the Navy has reminded me that so much, even in my own life,  is out of my control.  All I can control is how I handle what comes my way.

After our conversation, I was filled with a sense of gratitude.  The things I struggle with most – loneliness and being apart from the ones I love (besides Ben, of course) – still exist.  But I’ve learned to make my life about what I have, not what I lack.  And I am so incredibly blessed.  Life will continue to have it’s difficulties, but Ben and I have weathered many storms together.  I am thankful for the confidence I have in our relationship and the strength we have developed together.

“When peace like a river attendeth my way, when sorrows like sea billows roll; whatever my lot, Thou hast taught me to say, it is well, it is well with my soul.”


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  1. Hey Kristen! Read this and your most recent about moving to OKC. Wow! Thanks for blessing us with your blogs. It’s good to sort of “catch up” that way. When I finish school (in June), I hope to pick up blogging again! Peace and blessings!
    – Kyle

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